Yesterday, Zachary came home upset. At first, he threw a tantrum and refused to eat (gulph)…so I knew  something big was up.

He didn’t talk about it for most of the night.  So I patiently waited to when he wanted to discuss.  Sure enough, at bedtime, he brought it up.

It seems that a group of boys have been playing a “spy” game at lunch.  One of the kids accused Zachary of making fun of another kid, which he strongly denies.  That resulted in him being kicked out of the spy game.

Mommy, what would you do?  That’s a tough question because eventually he needs to handle these
things on his own   So, I asked him, what do you think should do?  His response, play with other kids.  I nodded at the response, but then added mommy would talk to the kid that made the accusation and let him know it’s not true…and then I would talk to the impacted kid…which Zachary had already done and the kid said he was lying.

It’s a fine line between being a nice kid and sticking up for yourself.  And I told him, you want to be a strong individual.  We don’t do things in life just to please others.  If you didn’t say those things, let others know.  It’s their choice on whether to believe, but you’re not bound by their affirmation, if you know it to be true   Leadership skills are learned in these instances….but growing up isn’t easy…and yes, the boy drama is real, lol